I want to be Like Pooh

…Pooh, the most effortless Bear we’ve ever seen.
“Just how do you do it Pooh?”
“Do what?” asked Pooh.
“Become so effortless.”
” I don’t do much of anything,” he said.
” But all of those things of yours get done.”
” They just sort of happen,” he said.
“Wait a minute that reminds me of something from the Tao Te Ching,” I said, reaching for a book. Here it is, chapter thirty-seven. Translated, it reads something like “Tao does not do, but nothing is not done.”

When I first started doing the blog-a-thon, one of the first writers to pick up the gauntlet and run with me was @YogawithStyle, and one of her very first posts was from the Tao of Pooh. As luck would have it, I even had a copy of it on my desk that very same day. It’s an interesting little book relating to the art of Taoism and its translations to the life of Pooh, and translating them into Pooh-isms.

In reading the above passage, I often wonder if I could ever be like Pooh, and just be. I often catch myself worrying  about every detail of everything I’m trying to get done, and wonder, if I just take the time to be, would it all still get done?

Rushing Back to You

 
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Now you know why I am itching to be back with you all, enjoying your company, teaching, speaking, laughing and loving the life that is mine.

Just Start / Keep Blogging

Finding inspiration is hard

It’s 8:50 PM and I’m still trying to come up with my inspiration for blogging today. I have blogged every day with the exception of Christmas Day and Christmas eve, including the days of my procedures.

Giving other people courage

There have been more and more people telling me that they’ve been inspired to blog.  They’ve seen my dedication to posting daily, but more than that they’ve seen other people, and their dedication to blogging. I don’t think  it’s that we’re doing it every single day that’s inspiring these people; it’s that we’re choosing to find things that are meaningful in our lives we feel worthwhile to share. I think because we have the courage to let our guard down, and share intimate thoughts, that gives other people the courage to do the same.

Join us

If you’ve been thinking about taking the blog-a-thon challenge, but you’re too intimidated to do it every single day, just do it. Start today, make that commitment. Maybe it’s not everyday, maybe it’s once a week, or every other day. Whatever it is, make a commitment to YOU.   Start up that blog, and share with us the things  you need to say. Share the things we need to hear.

You Matter

If you’ve been blogging, please know the things you’re saying are reaching people that desperately need to hear your message. Please continue even if you’re struggling with it. We’d love to hear from you, feel free to share your blog in the comments, or to share another blog that has touched you.

 

If Today Was Their Last Day by Dan Perez

This blogger is not one of the blog-a-thon participants,

but this post moved me today.


Medical update:

Like I said I am finding this easier to blog about other stuff than to blog about what I am going through.  At the start I thought I had it under control, (an illusion I know.) I knew what to expect as I have undergone this very procedure before. I even told several people that I knew what to expect, and that I was not going to kid myself about the am

ount of pain and the amount of time I would be out of commission. I also followed those statements with “but this one won’t be as bad, because they (my kidneys) are cleaner than they were the first time, and it is only one side.”

I was so wrongIn the days preceding the procedure, I had some significant kidney pain on the left side. So on the day of my scheduled cleanout, I told the doctor about it and asked that he look into it. I remember him saying “good call on the left kidney” when I woke up. Turns out they did clean out both sides. Over the next few days I had discomfort.  I expected discomfort. What I did not expect was that my pain and discomfort would get worse over the passing days. I wrote it off with the rationalization that you always hurt worse 24-48 hours after a crash.

Gaining more than expected

So I started retaining water, or so I thought. My torso started swelling and over the past few days I have grown to look a solid 8-9 months pregnant! So on top of the pain of the kidneys being beaten from the inside out, and the discomfort of having hard plastic crazy straws stuck inside me, I now had the pressure and discomfort of being pregnant!

I have had x-rays and a CT scan. I have no answers yet. But the doctor did wish to remove the stents tomorrow. It is a bit early and I still have lots of stone fragments that will need to pass. Maybe it is my body rejecting or revolting about the stents. Maybe it is my bottom of the barrel revelation that I do not want to be fat (or pregnant) ever again.  Maybe there is another medical reason for me to be so swollen.  But that is the hardest part: The Uncertainty. I just don’t know what is going on.

Thank you to all my friends for your continued help, support love and prayers.

It Matters

Content Matters

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Below are some of the bloggers participating in the Blog-a-thon.

Name                                              Blog

Stacey Shanks       www.YogaAndLife.com

BgKahuna           www.bgkahuna.com

Zachary Long        www.fenglongphoto.com/blog

Shanna Hall       www.healthyfitandsexy.com

Bonnie Schnautz       www.brenewed.com

Paula Diaco       www.signaramavt.com

Jennifer Tallini        www.yogawithstyle.com/blog/

Mary Biever        Real Life in the River City

Mandy Gregory        www.mamasowngreenclean.com

If you are not on here send me a link to your site and I will add it.

Day 2 post opt

Yesterday was New Year Eve, and our anniversary. I spent the better part of my day in bed, reading tweets, facebook posts, blogs, and bouncing back and forth between several books. All this was accomplished while still taking many cat naps.

I wasn’t shy about answering the many times people asked “how are you feeling.” I watched as people dropped off line for a few hours as parties started, and held conversations with friends online that weren’t out on the town.

I mentioned in a recent post that I was seeking out other stone formers, and that I “Usually asked some questions, but did not make any real sparks.  (People in pain are not real conversationalists.) “

So last night as I was about to ring in the new year, I reached out to several more people who mentioned kidney stones in their tweets. A spark was found.  We exchanged a few comments and questions as we had both had our procedure the same day. She then tweeted me the best new years toast!

@DanaMNelson Toasting rx med w/ u 4 Happy New Year!

 


Thanks Patty for the best NYE toast!

As an update to yesterday’s post when I thought I had failed at my original task of this blog-a-thon, I received this comment:

“You did not fail! I blogged nearly every day and certainly would not have if it hadn’t been for you!”

This was from Mandy Bell Gregory. She has been blogging with us daily. Please check out her blog at:

www.mamasowngreenclean.com

 

 

Reaching Out to Others vs. Allowing Others to Reach Out to me

As I mentioned yesterday I tried to reach out to others who were suffering in order to offer hope and encouragement.  I didn’t really let me guard down, express the anxiety I was feeling, and talk about what I was going though.

Wednesday night I let my guard down. I privately DMed my pastor @DaleBeaver

 “Please pray for peace/calm, starting to freak out.”  

 He replied within minutes with a Bible verse that was spot on what I needed to hear. I thought maybe others need to hear it too. So I thanked him and tweeted it publicly. As a side note for those who don’t know me: I am a Christ Follower, but I DO NOT post much “churchy” stuff. I hold more to the – practice kindness talk to people and show your love than the preach it method- that is just WHO I am.)

Much to my surprise this sparked several side conversations, and more DMs from other people. So I posted it on Facebook.

“THANK YOU!! To Dale Beaver who sent this to me via Twitter, at a moment of top stress about tomorrow. (I really NEEDED to hear it) Philippians 4:6-7

 

 Again, this is WAY out of norm for me.  What I found was more and more outpouring of love compassion and caring.  Many more started telling me stories of things they have endured and things they have suffered. And more than one THANKED me. Thanked me for saying I was scared? This seemed off to me, for them to thank me for posting, I was the one who was getting what I needed to hear not them.

There is a difference

When we drop our guard, and let people see we are hurting, or in need of friendship, we find something more special than we could have imagined.

-we find true and new friends alike.

-we find a deeper understanding of people’s beliefs.

-we find out how highly we are valued as people, not for our work, but for who we are.

-we find that through our suffering we can encourage others to be brave.

Baby Robin

If I can stop one Heart from breaking
I shall not live in vain
If I can ease one Life the Aching

Or cool one Pain
Or help one fainting Robin
Unto his Nest again
I shall not live in Vain.

Emily Dickinson (1830–1886)

Making Healthier Choices – Carbs and Fat

This week I’m starting my new year off TODAY, by making healthier choices.  Today’s choice is really a clever switch.

It is important to reduce, not eliminate totally,  your fats and carbs if you are looking to maintain a healthier eating style. I hate the fad diets that starve you of good fats, and all carbs. (I’m a carbaholic!) 

Here’s a secret:

If you’re replacing water for soda, you increase water consumption and decreased carbs.  (Monday’s Post)

By replacing fries with carrots and celery, you increase your vegetable consumption and decreased your fats. (Tuesday’s post)

Do you find it hard to limit yourself? When it is a forbidden item, do you want it more?

If you start by slowly replacing the carbs and fats with great tasting fruits and vegetables, you will loose a portion of the desire for the bad foods. By simply focusing on adding, you will really be eliminating.  Why don’t you join me? Start today.

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Making Healthier Choices – Fruits and Vegetables

Photo courtesy of Vescovi Catering taken By NB Images

Yesterday I told you about starting my new year off TODAY, by making healthier choices.  Today’s choice is an addition to my diet.

I’m going to try to eat more fruits and veggies. I’m not saying I will become a vegetarian, or go all out and never have fries again.

Why don’t you join me? Start today.

Try to add one or two fruits or veggies a day more than your normal consumption. Add an apple instead of fries with your sandwich. Eat carrots and celery as a snack instead of chips.  You consciously make those choices.

The recommendation was generalized as 5 a day. (more matters) I loved the five a day the color way. It was a quick and easy way to make sure you got the right amount and the right variety of nutrients. Each color grouping of foods have different nutrients that they contain more of than another group. 

Raw foods have the highest concentration of the nutrients that you need. When you cook foods, you lose important things like nutrients, but also many enzymes are lost. Next would be frozen, then canned. Food is cooked at super high temps when canned. But a can of mixed fruit in its own juice, not syrup, is still WAY better for you than the snickers, and it really satisfies!

Raw has other benefits. They are a good source of pre-packaged snacks. Apples, bananas, celery, carrots, and grapes are all really portable ready to eat snacks. If you opt to eat your broccoli and cauliflower raw at dinner, then there are no pans to clean!

Making Healthier Choices – Water

I’m so glad that I can call Bonnie Schnautz my friend. I’ve only been to a few events where she spoke, but they were great! She has had a big impact on my thought processes and my recognition of CHOICES.

I’m not going to resolve to lose weight this year. (Although that would be great.) I’m going to start my new year off TODAY, by making healthier choices.  Why wait?

I’m starting with WATER. WATER, WATER, WATER!!!! You should be drinking at least 8-10 glasses a day. Not juice, milk, coke, Kool-Aid, lemon-aid… just water! Do you really consume that much water daily?

If you set this as your goal to achieve every day right off the bat, do you know what is going to happen?

You will fail

Maybe not the first day, maybe not the second, but when you do here’s what will happen…

“Man, this is too hard! Nobody can do this, I’m not even going to try.”

Do you think marathon runners start off running 26 miles a day? No. They start slowly, with 1-3 miles the first week.

Why don’t you join me? Start today. Add 1 glass of water. At dinner, or lunch ask for water, not soda.  Continue to add only 1-2 glasses to your normal intake for a week.