Re-ignite People’s Potential by Changing the Rules of Engagement

Guest Post by Janet Laane Effron

Performance, productivity, attitude…  we’d all like those to be first rate in the people we work with (and in ourselves).  But sometimes we get saddled with an individual or a team who are walking definitions of the dead opposite.  Sometimes these people aren’t inherently deadweight, but are talented individuals who have become under-performers.  If that’s the case, the challenge is to
 re-ignite their potential.

My best lessons in managing those situations came from outside the office.

Through various volunteer roles, I’ve had the opportunity to work with a few young people who had a healthy dose of non-motivation and bad attitudes.  Some of them acquired those traits honestly, having spent quite a few years in what would be politely called “non-nurturing environments”.  Some felt worthless and powerless; they didn’t see “change” as something that was possible.   So they walked through life with a mix of bravado and apathy; pouring their energy into defiance and avoidance instead of building their abilities and achievements. When working with them, it was easy to fall into a trap of having every interaction be a point of conflict.  And that wasn’t going to get anyone anywhere.

Some changes were needed. From me.  So I learned to set people up to succeed.  And I became hyper-vigilant about catching them doing things right and doing good things; avoiding the trap of only giving negative feedback; instead finding opportunities to praise and encourage.   That doesn’t mean I relaxed standards; it does mean every effort was made to help them avoid pitfalls while trying to meet those standards.

The changes were undeniable.  The impossible became possible.  New motivations grew and replaced the apathy.  It wasn’t all sunshine and daffodils, but the net result was a growth of ambition and enthusiasm that was well beyond the starting point.

You don’t have to look far to find people who have felt powerless and frustrated in the workplace; who spent too many years working in organizations where innovation and initiative were not welcome.  There are probably some on your team right now who stopped trying long ago, and who drag everyone else down.  Now, they might simply be lazy and annoying and that’s the end of it; those situations have obvious solutions.  But when it’s a talented person whose potential is salvageable, it’s pretty good odds that if you set them up to succeed, and catch them doing good, they just might amaze you with what they achieve.

I Met Peace Today

Many people search for peace. People look to other people for peace. People look to places for peace, and people look to institutions for peace

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a people person. I believe in surrounding yourself with people that encourage you, guide you, and inspire you. And I think there is peace in certain relationships.

 I have personally sought peace in places. I moved to the desert, seeking a peace that I felt there when I visited. Some people take spiritual journeys to places that they feel hold some sort of key to finding their peace: places like the great wall or Jerusalem. I believe sometimes peace can be found in following your heart to the places that it leads you.

Some people seek peace in institutions of religion, institutions of military and institutions of education. I truly believe that of all the places that we actually seek to find peace, perhaps within a religion or ideology are the places that we come closest.

But today I met Peace. Quite literally: I actually met a man whose name was PEACE.

 COOL

That was my first reaction. But on the way home I got to thinking about the phrase that I shouted out after I met him.

 “I found peace!”

Do we really find it? I’ve known so many people that continually seek and are forever on this journey. They seek and they seek, but they’ve never found peace. I’ve known people who always seem at peace, no matter the situation. Many of those I know would say that peace comes from their religious beliefs. But I would like to consider that even further, especially to those who seek in terms of religion. Did you seek peace and find it? Or did it find you and introduce itself to you? Think about it, if you’re one of those people, can you look back and say: I met peace on that day and he has ben my friend ever since? I just met this person today, and maybe we will be friends, maybe not. But he did make me realize that far too often we seek peace, when we simply need to say, nice to make your acquaintance.

The first step

The first step:

I’m not a blogger. I keep telling myself this. I know about it, I encourage others to find their voice, I love to talk, I love to share, so why then am I not a blogger?

The answer is probably many things. Afraid, is the first one that comes to mind. Afraid I will say something stupid, afraid I will hurt a feeling, afraid I will be found out to be human, and not perfect… Afraid to try.

 So today is the day I say “hello world: I am Dana M. Nelson. Human extraordinaire, about to dive into the world of sharing my passions, my knowledge and misadventures with you!